Soyayya

Macen da bata da shagwaba ta samu nakasu a wajan cikar dabi'arta. Ya kamata mace ta iya gwaba ma mijinta. Guraren da ya kamata mace ta yiwa mijinta shagwaba: Guraren da ya kamata mace tawa mijinta Shagwaba sun hada da Wajan rokon wani abu daga wajen mijinta. Wajan Hira ta soyayya, misali idan miji zai tafi wajan aiki ko kasuwa, ya kamata su rabu da matarsa tana mai shagwaba sosai. Hakanan wajan Kwanciya ma ya kamata mace ta rikawa namiji shawagaba sosai. Shagwaba daga kallo take farawa, irin kallon da zaki rikawa mijinki kadai ya isa ya tayar masa da hankali. Sannan sai magana a hankali da kuma uhum..uhum dinnan kin gane dai. Jikinki ma yana shawagaba, wajan juyashi da jiginawa mijinki duk abubuwan da suka dace duk dan ki jawo hankalinsa. Ya kamata mace ta iya na...

A sunnah ta ma'aiki, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam babu wata addu'a da aka ruwaito cewa itace ta janyo hankalin saurayi. Saidai zaki iya rokon Allah ya baki soyayyar wane, idan shine Alkhairi. Kuma mafi kyawun hanyar da ya kamata ki bi wajan yin wannan addu'a shine ta hanyar yin Istikhara. Jabir ibn ‘Abd-Allah(RA) ya ruwaito cewa, Manzon Allah, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam yana koya mana neman zabin Allah(yin Istikhara) kamar a dukkan al'amuran mu, kamar yanda ake koya mana karatun Qur'ani. Yace duk wanda yake da wata damuwa akan wani abu da yake nema ko yake so to yayi raka'a biyu sai yace "Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi ‘ilmik, wa astaqdiruka bi qudratik, wa asaluka min fadlik al-azim. Fa innaka taqdiru wa la aqdir, wa ta’lamu wa la a’lam, wa anta ‘allamul-ghuyub. Allahumma in kunt...

Hmmm.... Lallai kina son ko kuma kana son ka iya hirar soyayya a waya ko? To bari dai in fara da cewa, a mafi yawancin lokuta ba a koyata, yanayinkane ke sa budurwa ta soka ko ta kika, ko kuma saurayi ya soki ko ya kiki. Idan budurwa na sonka, kusan duk abinda kayi daidai ne, hakanan shima saurayi idan yana sonki. Saidai akwai shawarwari da zan baku da zasu sa ku iya hirar soyayya ta waya. Yadda ake hirar soyayya a waya Da farko dai ya kasance kana yawaita kuranta budurwarka. Ka rika gaya mata irin kyan da take dashi, wane fim ne ake yayi a lokacin, wane labari me dadine ya faru a irin wannan yanayin, wane abune kake tunanin bata sani ba wanda kai ka sani da kuma kake tunanin zai birgeta? Idan zaka gaya mata magana, ka rika hada mata da misali na zahiri wanda ya far...

A jiki ana gane alamomin cikakkiyar budurwa kamar haka: Nonuwanta zasu ciko Wata Kugunta zai kara girma Gashin gaba Gashin hamata Fuskarta zata rika sheki Muryarta zata kara zama siririya A halayya ana gane alamomin cikakkiyar budurwa kamar haka: Zata rage yawan magana Zata rika kula da kanta fiye da da Wata zata rika kebancewa ita kadai Zata san darajar kanta Zata so yin saurayi. Wadannan sune alamun cikakkiyar budurwa wanda ba lallai a samesu wajan yarinya ko kwaila ba.Ku biyomu a shafukanmu na sada zumunta dan samun labarai masu kayatarwa: A shafin twitter zaku same mu a @hutudole A shafin Facebook zaku samemu a @hutudolehausa Danna nan dan sanin yanda zaku tallata hajarku a shafin hutudole